I’m looking for ideas, and hoping that my vast lj readership might help me. 😉
We are working to help some friends of our with some serious marriage issues right now. They seem to be making progress, but I realized when I was talking to her the other day that they desperately need to learn to have fun together! They’re going to have to start small, and I’m trying to come up with fun ideas that don’t necessarily take a lot of time. If I get enough, I’d like to put them in a little jar – “Fun things we can do together in 15 minutes or less” – or something like that.
So… ideas?
Well, if you are looking for something quick, I have seen these in novelty shops, but you can make them on your own: Love Coupons
Each coupon has something quick to do, and should be fun.
Another thing that I have seen work well was the idea of a “date night”. Each week, the couple picks something to do, if they can’t think of something together, one week he chooses, the next week, she can. But it is usually the same night each week.
One last weird idea……I have heard of couples who really don’t have a lot of time together either from work schedules and running with the kids….they would have notebook communication. As he would leave for work, he would leave a msg or write about something, and so would she….interesting results.
It’s really hard to suggest anything without knowing their likes/dislikes…
For example, I LOVE to cook.. I’d love it if hubby helped me cook. Cooking can get downright.. um.. “fun” if using the right ingredients. 😛
Perhaps they can write out a list of a half dozen things each that take a small amount of time (15 minutes may be a bit hard to come up with that many) and put them in a pickle jar.. then each week, they pick one.
What kinds of things did they enjoy when they dated? If they enjoyed cars, then perhaps a classic car show would be in order… what about going for icecream instead of eating dessert at home? Or just hugging and rubbing each others backs is sooooo nice after a bad day…
The list is endless. 🙂 🙂
And cheers to you for helping them through. Too many marriages falling apart nowadays.